Category Archives: Life Thoughts

Adventure Fund

April 14, 2018

When I was home, I spent some time cleaning things from the attic. My parents’ attic is furnished and has, over time, served as a guest room, a storage area, (very briefly) my sister’s bedroom, and now it’s back to being a bit of a catchall area. I moved without really organizing any of my things, so I took a couple hours to go through them and consolidate a bit, mostly because my mom gave me a few not-so-subtle hints that she wants the space back. When I was cleaning, I found the above jar in a box of things from senior year of college.

I remember writing the words ‘adventure fund’ in pink Sharpie in my single dorm senior year, sticking the label carefully onto the jar from IKEA. I’m sure I thought it was going to go to pay for great things: plane tickets abroad or a hotel on the beach, maybe drinks at a busy pub in Europe. As I picked through the coins, searching for quarters to take back to Los Angeles so that I could do my laundry, I thought about how 21 year old me might have found that fact a little bit sad.

And then I stopped myself. Those quarters from three years ago are funding the adventure I’m living now, even if it’s not in the way I expected. They paid for my laundry when I got back home, which made it possible for me to wear clothes to work. It seems an overly dramatic way to talk about a little jar of coins, but it really did get me thinking about how life doesn’t always work out the way we expect, but sometimes it’s still really, really good.

One Year.

April 4, 2018

A year ago today, I slipped off my shoes at security, placed my laptop in a tray, and walked through the metal detector. I waved goodbye to my dad and my sister, tried to keep it together until I could get my things back in order, and rounded the corner to the gate, trying not to cry.

I was moving to Los Angeles, a place I’d only been once before, with two suitcases and a vaguely hope-shaped thing in my heart. Forget getting to LAX with a dream and a cardigan; I had an address to give a cab driver and a tiny plan of what I was doing after that, but no job and no place to live. It was this crazy idea that felt right, and I was following it.

I passed through that same metal detector last week, and waved goodbye to my dad cheerfully. There was no instagram picture of a smiling Harry Styles to stop me from breaking into tears this time, but I didn’t need one. I was going back home, leaving one home for another, and I was looking forward to it.

It’s been a year of big, big changes. The girl I was last April 4th has nothing on the girl I am this April 4th. I’ve had to learn how to show up for myself. I’ve had to become my own best friend in a very real sense. I’ve gone places alone and stretched my comfort zone. I’ve been let down by people and had my heart broken and cried myself to sleep a whole bunch of times. I’ve spent way more money than I wanted to and then developed the painful-but-necessary budgeting habits that prevent me from doing that again.

Moving somewhere where I only vaguely knew a handful of people has been forced me to be really ballsy. When my landlord was uncertain about approving me for the apartment, I had to stand up for myself. When I didn’t have anyone to hang out with, I went places alone. When potential new friends got busy and didn’t answer my texts, I learned not to take it personally and chose to reach out again. When I heard the girl in front of me at an event talking about how she lived in my neighborhood, I got brave and talked to her. In a very real sense, that act ended up changing my life here in Los Angeles: it led me to join November Project and led me to signing up for the marathon, two things that have been hugely important to me.

I’m a person who doesn’t tend to take enough credit for the things she’s accomplished, but I can say this: I moved across the country without a job or friends, and I’ve made a life for myself that I like more than the one I left behind. It’s not revolutionary and I’m not the first or last to do it, but I am really f***ing proud that I’ve done it.

Last year on this date, I borrowed my friend Kelly’s car and took a drive to the beach to watch the sunset and eat pizza. It’s a monthly tradition I’ve tried to keep up as much as I can, and this month is no exception. But this time I’m bringing friends, and I’m going to toast to year two.

Rooted.

March 29, 2018

I think a lot about running. Not just in the literal, both-feet-on-the-ground running (though I do think about that a lot – and just ran a marathon to prove it) but also in the sense of running away from things, and running toward others.

One of my favorite phrases is ‘wild and free,’ because of the feeling it evokes for me: light, airy, someone who does things without giving a care in the world. I think I like the idea of being the girl who’s got a plane ticket in her back pocket and just picks up and goes on a whim. I’m 25. It feels like I shouldn’t need to have things settled by now. I like the idea of being transient and not pinned down, a whole wide world full of options laid out in front of me.

I actually talked to my therapist about how the idea of being pinned down to one option. I can commit to writing 1500 words a day and running a marathon and not spending more money than I’m taking in, but committing to other people is hard for me. And I think that’s why running is so captivating – running means you don’t have to commit. It means you don’t have to be vulnerable. It means you don’t have to be rooted.

Some of my peers are getting married and buying houses and having babies, not necessarily in that order. It feels like I’m at a point where all of that terrifies me, those kind of lifelong commitments that find you attached to another person or situation or place. Sure, you can change those things, but it feels so permanent. I feel way too young for all that, and for a while there I wondered if I meant I’m just too immature. But I don’t think that’s the case – I think I just picked a different path, and I took a little while to figure out what that would be. And the comparison is dumb anyway: I’m happy in LA, with my too-expensive apartment and my independence and my work of figuring myself out.

Running is tempting. When things get hard, I want to do nothing more than get up and leave the situation, no matter what it is. I think running feels really good for a while. It lets you feel like you’re making a change. I think running has a time and a place, and sometimes we don’t know what that is until we’ve done it, but it can’t be a permanent solution.

Sometimes I wonder if when I moved to LA, I was running away from something. Someone accused me of it once. I don’t have an answer, I just know that it felt like the right thing to do in the moment – the only option, really –  and so I did it. Maybe I was running for something: from the cold, from depression, from an environment of my own making that wasn’t serving me anymore. In that case, running was the best course of action.

But it’s not always. My whole life, I’ve dreamed of a close knit community: people who know you, who love you, who call you out on your shit. And I don’t think you get that from running. In fact, I know you don’t. Running doesn’t allow us to build connections, to meet people, to sit with them in the hard times and say “hey, this hurts and I need you to help me get though it, and in return I will do the same for you.” If you’re constantly running, you don’t have those people. You can have friends, sure, but that sense of deep connection isn’t there. That only comes from being rooted.

For the first time in my life, I feel like I’m starting to put down roots. College felt like a temporary thing, where anything could change on a dime, and very frequently did. I was drifting for two years after I finished college, and now I’m in a place that’s starting to feel like home. I have people here who know me and love me, and I don’t feel like I need to have everything together. It feels good.

When I first moved here, I didn’t have a job or or a place to live. I said that I was going to stay for a year, and if I didn’t like it, I could always move back. In a few days, it will have been a year and I’m not planning on going anywhere. The one year plan has stretched into a tentative three years, but not really. I don’t really have a plan to go anywhere else at all. Maybe I’ll move somewhere else one day, but I’m building a community here, one that feels good and supportive and who I can’t imagine leaving.

Anything can happen, but for now I’m planning to stay where I am, to stay rooted. It’s a little scary, but it also feels freeing in a way that I couldn’t have imagined two years ago.

A Quarter Century

March 9, 2018

I turned 25 on Sunday. I think I’m supposed to feel all existential and “oh my God I’m getting SO OLD” about it, and I did for a bit leading up to it, but mainly I’m just incredibly grateful. I’m so grateful that I have this life, with friends who will plan me a big fancy brunch and bring number balloons (my secret dream that I have literally never expressed to anyone on the planet for fear of it being so basic) and take me to the beach and to bookstores and for tacos and take a thousand photos of me laughing in front of different murals. The weather was good, the laughs were plentiful, and I feel lucky.

Things I don’t want to forget: being told I needed to stay in the car because I got there early (which never happens), the fact that the man who took our big group photo turned out to be the author of Call Me By Your Name, which Bri and I had gone to see the night before, it being Oscar Sunday which hasn’t ever happened before and will likely never happen again, eating tacos for dinner, being too full to eat my free birthday milkshake after breakfast + mimosas + cake, the fact that there was cake at all, sitting on the beach and listening to the ocean and going to two bookstores.

I am 25, and I am thankful.

2017 in Review

February 5, 2018

Overall, 2017 was a really great year for me. I turned 24, moved across the country, and started a whole new life. It was the defining kind of year that I’m sure I’ll remember for years to come. Here’s a quick-fire, bullet point look back at the year for me.


January 2017

  • celebrated New Year’s in Vermont with my cousin
  • started my first round of Whole 30
  • met my puppy, Gracie
  • went to Washington DC with my mom, sister, and our exchange student

February 2017

  • the Patriots won the Super Bowl!
  • went to the Patriots parade and then got a terrible cold
  • started a short-term weekend job in the birth certificate department of a hospital
  • it snowed a lot
  • read a lot of books
  • continued to work on my novel in my writing class

March 2017

  • turned 24!
  • my friends threw me a surprise birthday party
  • officially bought my one way ticket to LA!
  • worked at a film festival
  • kept reading lots of books
  • saw Bastille in concert!

April 2017

  • moved to LA!
  • signed a lease for my very first apartment
  • went furniture shopping and spent a lot of money getting settled
  • explored a lot on my own
  • felt lonely at times and let it be okay
  • interviewed for 3 jobs and spent a lot of time on job applications
  • went to the LA Times Festival of Books

May 2017

  • joined November Project LAX!
  • went to a Dodgers game
  • got a California drivers’ license and bought a car
  • started my first real adult job!!!
  • went running a lot, spent lots of time outdoors

June 2017

  • went to Tijuana, Mexico with my coworker!
  • kept going to November Project and started to feel a bit more at home there
  • kept exploring LA
  • went to the beach a few times

July 2017

  • celebrated the 4th of July with an outdoor showing of Jurassic Park
  • got probably the worst sunburn of my entire life at the beach
  • got tickets to a pre-release screening of Dunkirk, which made me feel very Los Angeles
  • started reading more books again
  • went to Harry Potter World (twice!!)
  • went to a workout at the Hollywood Bowl

August 2017

  • did a second round of Whole 30
  • saw Bebe Rexha in concert
  • started hanging out more with people from November Project!
  • went to my coworker’s wedding
  • went to Disneyland!
  • saw David Cook in concert at the Troubadour

September 2017

  • went to San Francisco to visit my friend Mallory!
  • Ran a 10k, went to Disneyland, and went to a Dodgers game – all in one day
  • The very next day, ran a 5k and then went BACK to Disneyland
  • Saw Arizona at the Troubadour
  • went on an overnight running/camping adventure in Joshua Tree
  • fell and rolled my ankle during said overnight adventure
  • saw Niall Horan in concert at the Palladium
  • saw Harry Styles in concert at the Greek
  • went to Las Vegas spur of the moment to the iHeart Radio Music Festival
  • saw Bleachers in concert at the Fonda
  • read a lot of books

October 2017

  • had my first weekend work event
  • got a tattoo for the first time!
  • went to Phoenix, AZ for a Harry Styles concert
  • saw MUNA in concert at the Fonda
  • saw HAIM in concert at the Greek
  • went to We Can Survive at the Hollywood Bowl, where I saw Niall Horan and Harry Styles again
  • went to bed at 2 am that night and woke up at 5 am to go run a 5k with my friend Bri and people from November Project
  • went home to Boston
  • my best friend got married! A bunch of us stayed at the hotel that night and it was the most fun ever
  • flew back to LA on Halloween afternoon

November 2017

  • hibernated a lot – didn’t go too many places or do too much after the whirlwind of the last two months
  • ran a 10k and got a personal best
  • adventured with new friends
  • celebrated thanksgiving at my friend Liz’s house
  • wore a different outfit every day of the month for No Repeat November – and then never wrote a blog post on it! Whoops

December 2017

  • got a half marathon PR!
  • saw John Mulaney and laughed so hard my stomach hurt
  • saw Lady Bird, one of my favorite films of 2017
  • went to Disneyland with people from work
  • saw Cam in concert at the Troubadour
  • got sick 🙁
  • my family came to visit!
  • went to Harry Potter World, Warner Bros Studio Tour (super super cool), Santa Barbara, San Diego, and a lot more
  • spent Christmas in Santa Monica riding bikes on the beach
  • ended the year in an AirBnb in San Diego, asleep before midnight

So there it is: 2017 in 108 boxes. Between the palm trees and sunset pictures, there’s been a lot of heartache and worry and anxiety. There’s also been a lot of joy and discovery and independence. It was a good year.

A Fresh Start

October 25, 2016

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It’s been a while since I wrote a blog post. So long, in fact, that I couldn’t remember my password, and my college email was deleted, so I couldn’t retrieve it. But I missed writing, so here we are again, with a new website and the same me.

I’m in a big state of transition right now. I just ran my third half marathon, finished up two part-time jobs in Boston, and am trying to find a job across the country to try something new. We’ll see what happens, but I’m ready for some warm weather and a fresh start.

I’m looking forward to blogging again, about writing and creating and traveling and running and whatever else crosses my mind. I’m in a novel writing class and I’m about to start my eleventh attempt at National Novel Writing Month and I just got back from a trip to Los Angeles, so I have a lot in my head and I’m excited to share.